An Exercise

As part of my self-discovery journey, I tried to answer “What did you like about him or in what ways did you feel a connection?” 

 

·        He was an artist.

·        He was more courteous than not to the public at large.

·        He was very intelligent.

·        He would take on new learning ventures.

·        Affectionate – gave it and received it.

·        Considered me the most fair (as in 'just,' not 'light-skinned') person he ever met.

·        Thought my perception was keen; often asked for my feedback on his life drawings though I had no art training.

·        He thought I had a unique point of view and could write a column.

·        If he was awake, he always said yes when I asked him to play a verbal alphabet game to help me get to sleep. It was how my mother helped me fall asleep when I was a child.

·        Sexually, we were quite well suited. Even after we parted, he wrote me that I was the best lover he’s ever had. (Really, it is about being well suited together.)

·        My cats liked him.

·        He’d been an abused child in a culture that didn’t identify it as abuse.

·        He claimed he once rescued a butterfly out of a puddle and blew it dry.

·        He claimed he was a communist.

·        He was often reading or drawing.

·        He was very proud of being present during the riots in Puerto Rico in the late 60s.  Showed me pictures.

·        He noticed and told me of something that had made my mother feel good and smile.

·        Together, we created an amazing baby.

·        He loved the sight of breastfeeding, the connection.

·        He gave me credit, initially, for standing up to him when it came to the baby. (That is such a mixed thing, and I’m not sure it belongs on this list.)

·        He paid for a comedy class as a gift he knew I wanted.

 

·        During a mournful (not regretful, just mournful) part of the              separation for me, he told me to write comedy.