As part of my self-discovery journey, I tried to answer “What did you like about him or in what ways did you feel a connection?”
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He was an artist.
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He was more courteous than not to the public at
large.
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He was very intelligent.
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He would take on new learning ventures.
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Affectionate – gave it and received it.
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Considered me the most fair (as in 'just,' not 'light-skinned') person he ever met.
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Thought my perception was keen; often asked for my
feedback on his life drawings though I had no art training.
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He thought I had a unique point of view and could
write a column.
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If he was awake, he always said yes when I asked
him to play a verbal alphabet game to help me get to sleep. It was how my
mother helped me fall asleep when I was a child.
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Sexually, we were quite well suited. Even after we
parted, he wrote me that I was the best lover he’s ever had. (Really, it is
about being well suited together.)
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My cats liked him.
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He’d been an abused child in a culture that didn’t
identify it as abuse.
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He claimed he once rescued a butterfly out of a
puddle and blew it dry.
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He claimed he was a communist.
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He was often reading or drawing.
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He was very proud of being present during the
riots in Puerto Rico in the late 60s. Showed me pictures.
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He noticed and told me of something that had made
my mother feel good and smile.
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Together, we created an amazing baby.
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He loved the sight of breastfeeding, the
connection.
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He gave me credit, initially, for standing up to
him when it came to the baby. (That is such a mixed thing, and I’m not sure it
belongs on this list.)
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He paid for a comedy class as a gift he knew I
wanted.
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During a mournful (not regretful, just mournful)
part of the separation for me, he told me to write comedy.
Work that muscle - exercise is good for the psyche!