I’m part of a support group called Recovery from Narcissistic
Ex-Husbands. One of the hardest things
to get accustomed to initially was the shorthand. They often call their ex or soon-to-be-ex
their ex N or their stbx N.
Of course for the first month roughly, whenever I saw that, I thought of
the “N” word. Other times, they may use
the terms narc, ex narc, stbx narc, my
narc which of course to me sounds like a narcotics cop. Whether it’s a shooting, police brutality, a
drug bust, or a father brainwashing his child against his mother (and his own
heart and sanity) it all comes down to this:
The group can be heartbreaking. It has also been very helpful. I do wish I knew of it when I was in
mid-divorce. These women know in detail
about this situation more than I’ve heard from lawyers, judges, or court-appointed
social workers. These women, unlike those who seem to get pissed at me, don’t blame the
victim. They really deeply understand. In
sharing their experiences, I understand more about my own.
And for now, I remain in an exclusive relationship with a
woman who I had abandoned years ago to go down a dark path.
We are working on forgiving me. I hope she can.
"RECOVERY" WHAT A BEAUTIFUL THING! ALL THE BEST HON
Forgive yourself. It will inspire me...
Mention of that dark path sent one -- down my spine ... Heel-toe, heel-toe -- remember that? Dance away, my dear!
Melinda, I still could use more, but it is helpful. Rhonda, I felt moved by your comment. Really. Jack, wherever I dance or stand or walk, I have to have it in the light. Thank you each for your comments.